Know your Limits

Busy busy busy. Everyone these days is busy. Over the years, our family has had it’s share of “busy-ness”.  Homeschool activities, committees, leadership trainings, meetings, ministry. And it took a toll on our family.

I think “busy-ness” is a tool that Satan uses in the church a lot these days. Keep those Christians busy enough, and they will be spinning around in so many directions, they won’t be effective at anything. And if all that causes some problems at home, then Satan is even happier.

You may not agree with me (and that’s OK, :)) but I believe that a woman’s ministry is to her husband and family first and foremost. We are called to be keepers at home. Other things are secondary, and if they effect family life, need to be evaluated and perhaps eliminated.

I love this post at Heavenly Homemakers, and this quote especially-

Never, ever, EVER should I be so busy and caught up in doing “good things” for others and for the church that it wears me out and makes me grumpy at my own family.  Never.

Wow! I wish I would have heard those words ten years ago.

Be sure to read the rest of the post too, its a great one!

Are you Talking to Yourself?

In her post today, the King’s Missus again discusses the topic of weary Mamas. And she shares a bit about how Joy is not only a choice, but something we must fight for.

The entire entry is worth a read, but I wanted to put two small excerpts here.

A question posed by  CJ Mahaney:
Have you realized that most of your unhappiness in life is due to the fact that you are listening to yourself instead of talking to yourself?

Josh Harris interviewed C.J. Mahaney on the subject of the fight for joy as a pastor:
Joshua Harris: I would love to just hear from you, C.J., about what the fight for joy each day looks like in the life of a pastor. What are some key moments for you when it comes to cultivating that kind of joy? How is it expressed?

C.J. Mahaney: Your reference to the fight for joy is right—it’s a fight each and every day. So this is not a natural disposition that one possesses. Each day sin will be opposing the experience and cultivation of joy in our lives. I am personally very familiar with weariness and discouragement and, therefore, what I read in Scripture about the priority of joy and the experience of joy is very applicable to my soul. And each day what I seek to do, from the outset of the day, is position myself as close to the gospel as possible so that I might experience the effects of the gospel. One pronounced effect of preaching the gospel to my soul is joy. I am the worst sinner I know. And given the countless sins I have been forgiven of, as I contemplate the Savior’s substitutionary sacrifice on the cross for my sins, the effect of that contemplation in my life is joy. So from the outset of each day I seek to “survey the wondrous cross on which the Prince of glory died.” I seek to study the doctrines of grace. I seek to prepare my heart to discern evidences of grace throughout the day. And as I devote myself to those practices at the outset of each day and throughout the day, the effect upon my soul is joy.

Clothing and the Character of the Child

From the Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood

Clothing and the Character of the Child, Part I

Timothy Paul Jones
January 2, 2009
Summary: Dr. Timothy Paul Jones serves as the Assistant Professor of Leadership and Church Ministry at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky.

An article certainly worth reading, about a father’s trip to mall with his teen daughter. The main message is this:

“The clothes that our children wear do not merely cover the nakedness of their flesh; they shape and reflect the contours of our children’s souls. What I encourage my child to wear is a statement not merely of fashion but of theology and axiology-and this link between our theology and our wardrobes is not a recent phenomenon. ”

Click the link above to read the entire article.

While organizing, a gem is found

Today, Jan 1s the start of a new year, and I felt an urge to organize. It started by making a bigger mess in our home, by moving furniture, LOL Some things were decluttered, with much more to go, but I think the end result will be wonderful and go far to making our home the haven I wish it to be.

I also have been organizing my computer. My husband bought me a new hard drive for Christmas (before you ask, YES, it was on my wish list, LOL) and so I have been cleaning up the old drive, and copying some files to the new one.  In doing so, I found this little list, called a parent’s  checklist hiding in my “My Documents” folder. I hope it blesses you as it did me.

A Parent’s Checklist

Hugged my child and told him, “I love you” (Luke 15:20)

Prayed specifically for my child

Listened carefully when my child wanted to talk. (Matthew 18:5)

Read to my child. (Proverbs 4:1-4)

Discussed God with my child. (I Tim 3:4)

Exhibited patience with my child. (I Cor 13:4)

Sang or listened to music with my child. (Psalm 8:2)

Spoke about his Daddy with loving respect. (Col. 3:18-19)

Did not expect behavior beyond his age capabilities. (I Cor13:11)

Punished his disobedience with appropriate measures.(Jer 17:10)

Helped my child learn something new. (Luke 2:52)

Encouraged my child to do something for someone else. (Gal 6:10)

Protected my child from evil and harmful influences (I Cor 13:6-7)

Challenged and helped my child to do something he thought he couldn’t do. (I Thess 5:14)

Did not punish my child when I was angry. (Psalm 103:8-14)

Exhibited good manners for my child to model. (Matt 7:9-12)

Praised my child for a character quality. (Gal 5:22-23)

Read the Bible to my child. (2 Tim 3: 15)

Prayed with my child (Matt 18:19-20

Modeled only the attributes I want my child to emulate (I Cor 4:16)

Laughed with, not at my child (Romans 12:15)

Thanked my child for something he did. (I Thess 5:18)

Gave my child some responsibility. (Titus 3:14)

Did not talk negatively about my child in his presence (Proverbs 12:18)

Praised and thanked my child more than I criticized him. (Proverbs 16:24)

Asked my child’s forgiveness when I was wrong. (James 4:6)

Forgave my child immediately (2 Cor 2: 7-8)

Made time to be alone with my child (Duet 6:7)

Did not make a promise to my child that I could not keep. (Eccl 5:5)

a quote

“Through the thick and the thin of this, and through the occasional tears of it all, I know deep down inside I am doing God’s work. . . . I am deeply moved that God finds His ultimate purpose and meaning in being a parent, even if some of His children make Him weep.”